If you want to live the life you want be sure to build your self-confidence.
As a life coach, I have many clients who are tired of doing what they don’t like and 
want to live on their own terms. These clients are predominantly on the cusp of a new stage in life such as adulthood, mid-life, or retirement. This makes sense since these transitional times provoke personal reflection and the urge to right the boat of life with some self-transformation.
I’ve also noticed those clients with a healthy dose of curiosity, self-confidence, commitment, and self-compassion, tend to embrace all kinds of change, including the personal growth that comes with it. In addition, they’re more at ease with transitions and navigate them well.
Fortunately, it’s possible for you to build sufficient self-confidence to live the life you want. It takes some work and often a bit of time, but the rewards are well worth it.
Living the Life You Want Takes Knowing Yourself and Having the Confidence to Get What You Want
So, why is confidence so important? Well, it’s because confidence is the sense you know what’s right and what’s true. And, to choose the life you want means you truly know what you want. Confidence also means feeling self-assured due to your clarity and appreciation of your abilities. And this means you don’t need to check in with others or social media for validation.
What’s critical is confidence is more than what you think. More importantly, it’s based on what you sense. You see, thoughts and beliefs are how your head-brain works and communicates to you. But your heart brain and gut brain speak through felt senses, i.e., the whole sense of something as determined from within your whole being. In other words, your thinking comprises a bunch of thoughts that may or may not fit together into a clear and harmonious whole, a felt sense is holistic and reflects everything taken together – a sort of instant summary or conclusion. (For more, see Why Embodiment Is Important to Your Self-Awareness).
Since you’re the only one who can discern these important cues from felt senses, you are the only one who can validate them. You must trust and have confidence in reading your inner self. In other words, confidence reflects what you know in your core. And when you get that clarity, your head, heart, and gut brains all tend to agree. That’s rock-solid confidence.
Listen to Yourself to Know Want You Want
For many people knowing what they want doesn’t come easy. In fact, neither does turning their attention inward. Emotional and cognitive confusion and a habit of modeling what’s trendy or expected challenge authentic expression and decision-making.
Getting in touch with yourself, listening to and being with what’s in you gives you a solid sense of what is, what makes sense, what’s right for you, and what choice or path you want to take. This inner reflection generates confidence because it resonates with you on all levels: gut, heart, head, and body.
Inner and intuitive impressions offer real wisdom, especially if you constrain your mind-chatter and head-brain analysis from shrouding your perception. The analysis is useful, but not while you’re turning inward. Do these actions separately. Taking all of your intelligence into account will reveal the right move for you. You can be confident of that.
Let Go of Limiting Beliefs to Gain Clarity and Freedom to Act on What You Want
What Are Limiting Beliefs And Why They Hold You Back
Beliefs are just thoughts that you hold to be true. And, limiting beliefs are those beliefs that create a mental, emotional, physical, or energetic block. They create stickiness and obstacles to action and actualization. Examples are negative self-judgments that often include words such as I can’t, shouldn’t, or have to.
A limiting belief distorts your thinking, eats away at your confidence, and keeps your life from moving forward. It will likely feel like a fixed truth rather than simply thoughts or impressions. It can inhibit your desired shift in focus, perception, or intention. It can hold you back from living the life you want. This is why they can challenge or even destroy your confidence.
Beliefs That Build Self-Confidence
When it comes to beliefs, what builds confidence is not the suppression of negative or counter-productive thoughts and beliefs, but rather the exploration and cultivation of believable and probable alternative realities where you confidently take action. In order to be empowering, these alternative thoughts must be believable or imaginable.
Self-Confidence and Living the Life You Want
In sum, a lack of confidence can make you tentative and unclear about your wants and needs. It hampers your capacity to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Furthermore, a lack of confidence can manifest as fear, self-criticism, avoidance, and perfectionism, all of which forestall your life unfolding and moving forward in ways that you desire.
In contrast, building confidence is key to living your life your way. The release of limiting beliefs combined with the ability to listen and know yourself are critical for self-confidence. In this way, building your confidence transforms challenges and change into rewarding opportunities for personal growth.
For More On Building Self-Confidence and Living Authentically, See:
- My Mind Body Spirit Blog; in particular:
- Spiritual Life Coaching and Energy Healing Sessions
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