Change is a normal part of life and a certain amount of change is expected. And, we humans have resilience and are hard-wired to adjust and rebalance to an ever-changing environment.

It’s A Pressure-Cooker World

But, nowadays we lead super fast-paced and stressful lives packed with responsibilities and demands. We’re constantly bombarded with information, enticements, distractions and increasingly facing unpredictable and contentious situations.

Burning Out Under Pressure

Unfortunately, this relentless pressure leaves far too few opportunities to pause, reflect, refresh, and integrate. The result is that we’re constantly reacting and never quite rebalancing. We find ourselves on the defensive, struggling to keep up and never catching a break. It’s stressful and exhausting!

No wonder so many of us in ever-increasing numbers are turning to unhealthily self-soothing behaviors, burning out, getting sick, seeking help, soul searching, and wanting to escape. (See also Are You Lazy – It’s a Matter of Opinion)

Coping and Resilience

Everyone needs healthy and effective coping strategies to be resilient. That might mean committing to a self-care practice, modifying ingrained behaviors, instituting a lifestyle change, or seeking assistance from others.

It may seem impossible to fit anything – even a simple essential self-care practice – into an overstretched schedule, but the truth is tiny steps in the right direction can result in a very big improvement, which in itself can enable additional steps, creating significant multiplier effects.

Slow gradual improvement is far better than none at all. 

A Small Step to Resilience

So, take a step. Start simple and use the resources you already have. For example, use your breath. Take a few deep cleansing breaths to immediately ease stress, clear your mind and improve your mood.

Use your breath this way to create some space when making hard decisions or before reacting to someone or something that triggers you. This practice is something you already know how to do, requires very little time or effort, and is free.

Self-Reliance Through Self Awareness

Another simple practice is to regularly check in with yourself; after all, nobody knows you as you know yourself. Several times over the course of the day, stop what you doing and ask yourself: what am I doing, how am I feeling, what do I sense in my body (e.g., warmth in my chest, tightness in my belly)? Note if what you sense is more open or constrictive, and to the extent possible, favor what feels more open.

The more you practice, the more attuned and confident you will become in your own internal voice. Your regular attention and reflection will increase your awareness and encourage you (consciously or unconsciously) to act in ways that decrease the dis-ease (constriction) and increase the ease (openness). If this process underlies your choices, it will continually orient you to live in a way that supports life moving forward, sustained healing, and greatest well-being.

Oftentimes, change requires consistent conviction and less willfulness and effort.

A Bigger Step to Resilience

Consider taking bigger steps. Pursue mindfulness or meditative practice: even a regular 10-minute practice will be beneficial. There are so many different types of mediation. You can pick the type of meditative practice that suits you.

If you’re stuck in unproductive mental rumination or at a loss for what to do, enlist the assistance of a coach. Friends and family are loving and supportive, but coaches can create an objective, informal, supportive, and safe space for honest self-reflection and assessment. With the right coach, you’ll be able to better align with your inner voice, shift your perspective, identify openings where you thought there was no door, and find workable solutions.

If hiring a coach doesn’t appeal to you, learn more about stress management, self-care, and personal resilience. Expose yourself to workshops offering the development of skills. Consider exploring self-discovery and personal growth workshops. Follow podcasts on the same theme. Take time to discover what works for you.

Most important if you feel under-resourced, take a step. It can be small or big, but take a step!    

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• My in-person and virtual workshops to Build Stress Resilience;
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